Because I am a Girl

was watching 换换爱, a taiwan series drama.. there was this conversation between e guy and e girl which struck me:

guy: 我发现..你害怕..得到别人的照顾还有帮助。
(i realised that you're afraid of receiving care and help from others)
girl: 我必须相信自己可以..这样活者比较不累啊。
(I have to believe that I can handle.. that way, life would be less tiring)
guy: 可是一般来说..一直坚持靠自己的人..不是更应该比较累吗？你怎么觉得不累啊？
(but usually.. wouldn't someone feel more tired when she has only herself to depend on? aren't you tired?)
girl: 那是别人又不是我.. 我亲身体验的是.. 期待永远不会发生的事情..那样才累吧!
(that's somone else, not me.. my own experience tells me that expecting something that wouldn't even happen.. would be even more tiring~)

really kudos to the female character.. her attitute rocks.. i wished i could be like her.. I guess its ok to be strong.. but anyone would still have his/her weak side which may not be shown to others. we are still humans afterall.. and it's no harm to receive help from others.. especially when you need it.. however, i think when you keep receiving help from others, you somehow feel indebt to him/her.. such that you think you owe the person a favour.. and if he/she doesn't need u to return the favour, it seems to accumulate w the rest of the unreturned-favours.. unknowingly, you'll start to feel tired.. =( i owe this person this.. owe that person that.. this person helped me before..... life that way would be too tiring.. why not pass on the favour? =) ie. be of help to someone else as well, expecting no return of favour.. "credit, debit" its a matter of balance..

though females are seen as e weaker sex, somethings good about being a girl:
girls tend to get into more trouble, yet you're more likely to find help from pple..
girls do not get forced to serve ns.
girls get more recognition when both sexes accomplish something tough.. (like serving NS.. -_-")

girls are naturally more cared for.. the society's like that.. say what gender equality and what not.. we're born physically weaker by nature.. so why not get help when you need it? but when it comes to things like opening a door, carrying a box of things.. i guess these things that we can do ourselves, we should do it.. in other words, we shouldn't depend too much on others for help. self-help is the best help. hah.

and sometimes.. the help you receive is far more than expected..

you're really thank-god grateful.. =)